Monday, March 3, 2025

Notes of silent Love

 


When Amber first walked into the office, his heart was pounding with excitement. He was eager, hopeful, and filled with the dreams of making it big. But little did he know that his heart was about to take an unexpected turn.

It happened on his second day at work. He saw her. Bhumi.

She wasn’t like the women his heart had fluttered for before. She wasn’t just beautiful; she was a melody, a presence that commanded warmth and admiration. He admired the way she carried herself, how she effortlessly handled work pressures, and how she laughed in a way that made the whole room feel lighter.

But he never spoke of his feelings. How could he? She was leagued apart, both in years and in experience. Instead, he found a different way to be close to her.

She carried herself with an elegance that made her stand out. Her presence was like a gentle breeze, calming yet profound. Amber had seen many beautiful women in his life, but there was something about her—the way she tucked her hair behind her ear while reading a document, the soft laughter that escaped her lips when she joked with colleagues, the kindness in her eyes when she spoke to people. She was mesmerizing, and before he knew it, he was utterly enchanted by her.

But he knew it was impossible. His heart, however, refused to listen to reason.

So, he loved her in silence.

Amber wanted to express his admiration, but without making things uncomfortable for her or even himself. That’s when he had an idea. Every morning, before the office became busy, he would leave a tiny note on her desk. Nothing too obvious. Just a simple compliment, a quote, or a kind word to brighten her day.

“Your kindness makes this place beautiful.”

“You have the most contagious laughter.”

“Hope today brings you joy as you bring to others.”

“Your kindness makes the world a softer place.”

“The way you smile makes Mondays feel like Fridays.”
“Some people shine without trying. You are one of them.”

And so, it began.

Bhumi was amused when she found the first note. She looked around, trying to spot who might have left it, but no one seemed suspicious. The notes kept coming—daily, without fail. At first, she thought it was a prank, but as days turned into weeks, and weeks into months, she realized it was something else. It was genuine. And it made her smile every morning.

The notes became her little morning delight. Whoever was leaving them seemed to understand the little things about her—the way she loved sunflowers, her habit of drinking green tea instead of coffee, the books she kept on her desk. It was thoughtful, sweet, and it warmed her heart.

Amber never expected anything in return. He just wanted her to know she was special, even if it was from a distance.

But all secrets have a way of finding their way to light.

One day, in a moment of carelessness, Amber had scribbled a note and accidentally left a pen with his name on her desk. Bhumi picked it up, her eyes widening in realization.

Amber? The young, enthusiastic boy who had joined a few months ago?

Amber. The young, bright-eyed boy who always greeted her with a soft smile. She was taken aback, not out of discomfort, but out of the sheer innocence of it all. The love he had been giving her was untouched by conditions, unburdened by reality.

She stared at the note and the pen for a long time before deciding to confront him.

That evening, as Amber was packing his bag, he heard a soft voice behind him.

“Amber.”

He turned, only to see Bhumi standing there, holding one of his notes in her hand.

His heart sank. He had been so careful. But here she was, looking at him, searching for an explanation.

“Why?” she asked, her voice neither harsh nor angry, just curious.

Amber swallowed hard, running a hand through his hair. “I… I just wanted to make you smile,” he admitted, feeling his pulse quicken. “You’re… different. You have this warmth about you that makes people around you feel safe. I admired you from the moment I met you. I never meant to make things awkward. I just wanted you to know how special you are.”



Bhumi sighed, looking at the note in her hand. “Amber… this can’t go anywhere. You know that, right?”

He nodded. “I know.”

Bhumi exhaled, a bittersweet emotion swelling in her chest. “You are kind, Amber. But love… sometimes it’s best left untouched, like a beautiful dream.”

She hesitated, then smiled softly. “Thank you… for making my days a little brighter.”

There was a pause, heavy and silent, filled with unspoken emotions. Two souls who had connected through words, but were bound by reality.

After a long silence, Bhumi spoke again, her voice gentle yet firm. “I think it’s best if we remain strangers, Amber. We can’t be friends, and we can’t be anything else.”

Amber felt a lump rise in his throat, but he smiled anyway. A sad, accepting smile. “I understand.”

And just like that, they made a silent pact.

The next day, there was no note on Bhumi’s desk.

They passed each other in the hallway like two unknown people, acknowledging each other’s presence but never stopping to talk. The days turned into weeks, and life continued as usual. But somewhere deep inside, they both carried the quiet memory of what once was—the unspoken love written in little secret notes.

Sometimes, love doesn’t need a grand ending. Sometimes, it’s just a feeling, a beautiful, fleeting moment that stays in the heart forever.

And perhaps, in some corner of the world, that’s enough.

 

Sunday, October 27, 2024

Traditional Face packs

 

Indian culture has a rich heritage of skincare practices rooted in Ayurveda and traditional remedies, which have been used for thousands of years. These practices emphasize natural ingredients, balance, and rituals that nourish the skin from within, aligning with the philosophy that beauty is a reflection of health and harmony. Here are some of the key principles and practices of Indian skincare:

1. Ayurveda and Dosha-based Skincare

  • Ayurveda, the ancient science of wellness, emphasizes treating each person according to their dosha (body constitution) – Vata, Pitta, or Kapha. Skincare in Ayurveda is customized to balance these doshas for optimal skin health.
  • Vata skin (dry) requires extra moisture, Pitta skin (sensitive) benefits from cooling treatments, and Kapha skin (oily) responds well to cleansing and exfoliation.
  • Ayurvedic oils like jojoba, almond, and coconut are commonly used to balance each skin type.

2. Natural Ingredients

  • Indian skincare heavily relies on natural ingredients, many of which have medicinal properties. Common ingredients include:
    • Turmeric: Known for its anti-inflammatory and antibacterial properties, turmeric is used to brighten skin, reduce acne, and provide a glow.
    • Sandalwood: Used for its cooling, soothing, and anti-inflammatory benefits, especially on irritated or acne-prone skin.
    • Neem: This potent herb is antibacterial and purifying, helping in acne treatment and preventing infections.
    • Rose Water: A natural toner and soothing agent, rose water helps balance the skin’s pH and is often used to refresh and hydrate.

3. Oil Cleansing and Abhyanga (Self-massage)

  • Oil Cleansing: Using natural oils to cleanse the skin is common. Oils like coconut, almond, and sesame are used to remove impurities without stripping the skin of natural oils, making it ideal for dry skin types.
  • Abhyanga (Self-massage): This Ayurvedic practice of full-body massage with warm oils not only moisturizes but also improves circulation, promotes relaxation, and supports detoxification. This ritual is often performed weekly and provides deep nourishment to the skin.

4. Exfoliation with Ubtans (Herbal Scrubs)

  • Ubtans are herbal powders made from ingredients like gram flour, turmeric, sandalwood, and rose petals. They’re mixed with water, milk, or rose water to create a paste, used to exfoliate, cleanse, and brighten skin.
  • This natural exfoliation method is gentle, often used before special events or festivals to achieve glowing skin.

5. Face Packs for Skin Concerns

  • Face packs are a major part of Indian skincare, tailored for various skin concerns:
    • Dry Skin: Packs with ingredients like honey, milk, and almond.
    • Oily or Acne-Prone Skin: Neem, turmeric, and yogurt to purify and control oil.
    • Tanning and Pigmentation: Turmeric and lemon are used to reduce tan and even skin tone.

6. Hydration with Buttermilk and Yogurt

  • Fermented dairy products like buttermilk and yogurt are used in skincare for their soothing and hydrating properties. They are often applied to calm irritated skin, reduce inflammation, and improve skin texture. Their natural lactic acid also mildly exfoliates.

7. Diet and Skincare

  • Indian skincare emphasizes a balanced diet with antioxidant-rich foods, herbs, and spices to nourish the skin from the inside out. Foods like ghee (clarified butter), amla (Indian gooseberry), and tulsi (holy basil) are incorporated to promote skin health and maintain radiance.

8. Sun Protection and Cooling Herbs

  • In a country with abundant sunlight, sun protection is essential. Ingredients like aloe vera and cucumber are used to cool and soothe skin after sun exposure.
  • Natural sunscreens like red sandalwood powder or zinc-based formulations help protect the skin, while herbs like shatavari and licorice are used to treat pigmentation and sunspots.

9. Beauty Rituals and Practices

  • Kumkumadi Tailam: This Ayurvedic facial oil is often called "miraculous elixir" and is used at night to brighten and rejuvenate the skin.
  • Golden Glow: For special occasions like weddings, brides apply turmeric and sandalwood pastes for glowing skin.
  • Threading and Sugaring: Traditional hair removal techniques like threading for eyebrows and sugaring for body hair are common and are valued for their natural, effective results.

10. Mind-Body Connection

  • Indian beauty rituals also focus on meditation, yoga, and pranayama (breathing exercises) as a way to manage stress and maintain a healthy glow. The mind-body approach emphasizes that reducing stress and practicing self-care have a direct positive impact on the skin.

These time-honored skincare practices are passed down through generations and continue to inspire holistic beauty routines today. Combining natural, plant-based ingredients with gentle care, Indian skincare rituals are revered worldwide for their effectiveness and connection to wellness.

 

Sunday, October 6, 2024

A Meditative state

 

 

 A meditative state is characterized by a relaxed mind, silent thoughts, and a sense of presence. To accomplish this through self-practice, select a quiet location and sit comfortably. Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and concentrate on your breath. If ideas occur, softly return your focus to the breath. Begin with 5-10 minutes daily and gradually increase the time. Body scans or repeating a mantra (such as "Om" or "peace") can aid to improve attention. Consistency is essential—with time, you'll build awareness and the ability to reach this state more effortlessly, both in practice and in everyday situations.

A meditative state is a deeply relaxed, focused state of consciousness where your mind becomes calm, and you experience clarity, stillness, and inner awareness. It’s often described as being fully present in the moment without distraction, judgment, or attachment to thoughts. Below are different techniques to help you achieve this state.




 
1. Controlled breathing.

2. Body Scan Relaxation

3. Mantra Meditation

4. Guided Meditation

5. Mindful Observation

6. Visualizations

7. Movement Meditation (Yoga, Walking, or Tai Chi)

8. Observe Thoughts Without Attachment

9. Use of Sound (Sound Baths or Music)

10. Practice Regularly



How to attain a meditative state:


1. Controlled breathing.

• Concentrate on your breathing, inhaling deeply and exhaling slowly.

• Try and do box breathing by inhaling for 4 counts, holding for 4, exhaling for 4, and repeating again 4 times

• Pay attention to the sensation of air passing through your nose and lungs.

Why it helps: Calms the nervous system and draws your focus inward.

 

2. Body Scan Relaxation

• Sit or lie comfortably.
• Focus on each area of your body, beginning with your toes and moving to your head.
• Release tension as you go. 

Why it helps: Promotes relaxation by building body awareness.

 

3. Mantra Meditation

  • Select a mantra (e.g., “Om” or “Peace”) and repeat it either mentally or aloud.
  • Synchronize your mantra with your breath or heartbeat.

Why it helps: The repetition anchors your mind and prevents it from wandering.

 

4. Guided Meditation

• Listen to audio coaching for relaxation, images, or affirmations.
• Use apps or videos for guided meditation experiences.

Why it helps: Helps beginners focus without worrying about technique.

 

5. Mindful Observation

  • Choose an object (e.g., a candle flame or plant) and observe it with complete attention.
  • Notice the colours, textures, and patterns, without labelling or analysing them.

Why it helps: Trains you to stay in the present moment.

 

6. Visualizations

  • Close your eyes and imagine a peaceful scene, like a beach or forest.
  • Engage all your senses—feel the warmth, hear the sounds, and smell the air.

Why it helps: Relaxes the mind and promotes deeper focus.

 

7. Movement Meditation (Yoga, Walking, or Tai Chi)

• Practice attentive movements and breathing.
 • For walking meditation, focus on each stride and how your foot feels on the ground.

Why it helps: Integrates mind and body, ideal for those who struggle with stillness.

 

8. Observe Thoughts Without Attachment

  • When thoughts arise, notice them, but don't engage.
  • Visualize them as clouds passing by, or leaves floating on a stream.

Why it helps: Trains the mind not to react or attach to thoughts, leading to inner stillness.

 

9. Use of Sound (Sound Baths or Music)

  • Meditate with calming sounds such as Tibetan bowls, chimes, or soft ambient music.
  • Focus on how the sound vibrations resonate in your body.

Why it helps: Sound helps shift brainwaves to a meditative state.

 

10. Practice Regularly

  • Start with 5-10 minutes daily, gradually increasing the time.
  • Set a regular time and place to meditate to create a habit.

 

Signs You've Entered a Meditative State

  • Reduced mental chatter
  • You may experience reduced mental chatter
  • A sense of timelessness
  • Deep relaxation while being attentive
  • Increased awareness or clarity
  • A sense of connection to the moment.

 

By practicing consistently, you will find it easier to enter and stay in this meditative state, reaping both emotional and mental benefits.


#meditation #meditativestate #meditativeprayer


Sunday, September 22, 2024

Cheated/Betrayal in Love

When someone feels cheated in love, it triggers a complex chemical and emotional response in the brain, primarily involving stress, emotional pain, and betrayal. Here’s a breakdown of the chemical reactions involved:

 Chemical and emotional response in 'feelings of being cheated' 
  •  Cortisol (Stress Hormone)
  • Adrenaline
  • Oxytocin and Vasopressin (Love Hormones)
  • Dopamine (Reward System)
  • Serotonin (Mood Regulation)
  • Endorphins (Pain Relief) 

  1. Cortisol (Stress Hormone): When you feel betrayed, the body perceives it as a stressful event. The brain, specifically the hypothalamus, signals the adrenal glands to release cortisol, which leads to the "fight or flight" response. This can cause increased heart rate, anxiety, and a sense of unease.
  2. Adrenaline: In moments of emotional pain or betrayal, adrenaline may also spike, leading to heightened awareness and arousal. This is the body's way of preparing for immediate action, even though the trigger is emotional rather than physical.
  3. Oxytocin and Vasopressin (Love Hormones): These hormones are associated with bonding and attachment. When you feel cheated, the disruption in your attachment to someone can lead to a rapid decline in these chemicals, contributing to feelings of emptiness or loss.
  4. Dopamine (Reward System): In a healthy relationship, dopamine is released when you're with someone you love, reinforcing positive feelings. However, when you are betrayed, this system is disrupted, leading to a sudden drop in dopamine. This creates a withdrawal-like sensation, similar to what happens when someone loses something they are addicted to.
  5. Serotonin (Mood Regulation): Cheating or betrayal can cause a drop in serotonin, which may lead to depressive symptoms, such as sadness, rumination, and low mood.
  6. Endorphins (Pain Relief): Emotional pain often triggers a similar response in the brain as physical pain. As a result, the body may release endorphins in an attempt to soothe the emotional hurt, although this relief is usually temporary.

Overall, the feelings of being cheated can lead to a cocktail of stress, emotional pain, and physiological reactions, making it a highly distressing experience for many.



 Physiological reactions in 'feelings of being cheated' 
  •  Betrayal Trauma
  • Lowered Self-Esteem
  • Depression and Anxiety
  • Anger and Resentment
  • Fear of Intimacy
  • Obsessive Thoughts
  • Loneliness and Isolation
  • Trust Issues
  • Difficulty Moving On
  • Rumination and Self-Blame



Feeling cheated in love can have significant psychological effects on an individual, often leading to a range of emotional and mental health challenges. Some common psychological impacts include:

1. Betrayal Trauma: The feeling of being deceived by someone close can cause a deep sense of betrayal, leading to trust issues.

2. Lowered Self-Esteem: The person might start questioning their worth, attractiveness, and whether they are deserving of love.

3. Depression and Anxiety: Feelings of sadness, helplessness, and hopelessness are common, as the individual may experience a loss of connection and emotional stability.

4. Anger and Resentment: Anger towards the partner who cheated and, in some cases, toward oneself for not seeing the signs earlier.

5. Fear of Intimacy: After being cheated on, individuals often become more guarded, fearing that being emotionally or physically vulnerable will lead to further pain.

6. Obsessive Thoughts: Many experiences repetitive thoughts about the infidelity, constantly replaying events or imagining scenarios, which can cause distress and interfere with daily functioning.

7. Loneliness and Isolation: Feeling abandoned or unwanted can trigger social withdrawal. The cheated person might isolate themselves.

8. Trust Issues: It becomes difficult to trust future partners or even close friends. The fear that others will also betray them can result in emotional distance.

9. Difficulty Moving On: Letting go of the relationship can be hard due to emotional attachment, and individuals may hold onto the pain or hope for reconciliation, which delays healing.

10. Rumination and Self-Blame: People often ruminate over the relationship, analysing what went wrong. This can lead to excessive self-blame, thinking they were not enough or could have done more to prevent the cheating.


#betrayal #cheated #feelingslost
#betrayalinlove #loneliness #trustissues #selfblame

Sunday, September 8, 2024

Three Love letters

 

 Love letters are the thoughts of someone, someone you haven't met in years can resurface for many reasons, often tied to deep emotions and memories that never truly fade. Sometimes, the mind associates certain feelings, experiences, or even a song with that person, rekindling old memories. It could be a longing for the connection you once had, unresolved emotions, or simply a moment of nostalgia. Even if time has passed, the impact that person had on your life may still linger in your heart, making their memory resurface unexpectedly, especially when you experience something that reminds you of them.


 Three ways that you can express depth of love in just a few words, full of emotion.

 💓💓💓💓💓💓

My beloved,

Your memories are etched in every corner of my heart. Whenever I think of your smile and those innocent eyes, my heart skips a beat. Life feels incomplete without you. The moments we spend together feel like the entire world is within my grasp. In your arms, I find peace, and your voice carries a magic that eases every pain. You are present in my every moment, in my every dream. Nothing is more special to me than you. Always yours,
[Your Name]


💓💓💓💓💓💓

My love,

Your memory today brings both peace and restlessness to my heart. Your laughter, those warm embraces, and the depth of your eyes—I can feel everything. When you're close to me, time seems to stand still. Every moment in the closeness of your breath feels special. Without you, these nights feel incomplete. Your touch, your scent, everything has become a part of my soul. I simply long to feel you once again.

Yours,
[Your Name]

 

💓💓💓💓💓💓

My beloved,

Today, when I heard that song, the thought of you became even deeper in my heart. Without you, life feels incomplete. In every word, in every melody, I can only feel your love. Your laughter, your words, everything touches my heart. I want to spend every moment with you, just like that song that connects hearts to hearts. You are the beauty in every moment of my life.

Forever yours,
[Your Name]


 

 It’s beautiful how music has the power to evoke emotions, and Bollywood romantic songs are filled with passion, tenderness, and longing. When you listen to those melodies, they might stir the deepest feelings in your heart and bring thoughts of the person who makes you feel cherished and loved. The lyrics and tunes often mirror the emotions you associate with love, and perhaps the connection you feel towards someone is reflected in the music. Your heart goes to them because the music resonates with the love, affection, and dreams you hold for them.

#lovelost
#loveletter
#deepquotes
#loverthoughts